Wednesday, May 27, 2015

Wedding Wednesday: When we almost lost our venue


Last Thursday was one of the scariest days of  my life. Or at least one of the scariest days of wedding planning. Most of you have enjoyed reading about how insane I'm going with all of this wedding planning, and you know how much of a royal pain in my honkeytonk to find a venue. You also know that we finally found a venue, and our wedding is now less than 4 months away.
Except that last Thursday, I thought our wedding wasn't going to happen because some people are incompetent think it's funny to ruin my life.

Let's back up: On May 12th I booked our venue. To book the venue you just have to say, "I want the venue on this date," and then it's yours. Then, within ten days you have to pay the deposit fee and you're totally set. I was told by someone whose name I will not share (mostly because I forgot it) that she would call me by May 25th to collect the deposit fee and then we'd be set. I told her, "That sounds great. I'd also like to set up a time to come view the venue on May 29." We're going back up there for Keith's cousin's wedding so the timing to view the venue worked out perfect. Anyway, she said I should call them by May 22 to set up the viewing time.

It sounds easy, right? Yes. Yes, it SOUNDS easy.
Last Thursday, May 21st, the venue called. I was in a work meeting (such important, so professional), and this is (basically) the message I listened to when the meeting was over:
Hi Juliette, this is Riley from the blah blah blah. I'm calling to collect the remaining balance for your event here next Friday, May 29. If you don't pay us we'll have to cancel your event. Your event next Friday, May 29. Please call me and give me money or else you can't have your event on May 29.

At first I only freaked out a little bit. I called Riley back and left a message saying, "Hi Riley, you're super wrong and I need to talk to you." Then I called him again, and got his answering machine. Then I called him again and got his answering machine AGAIN. Then I sat in the parking lot of Stater Bros and felt my body go numb because I'm nothing if not dramatic. I also had to pee a little bit. Then I called him and he FINALLY answered and I said, "RILEY, THANK GOD." And this is is how our conversation went:
Juliette: RILEY, THANK GOD.
Riley: Who is this?
Juliette: It's Juliette, returning your call about permit number blah 8675309 (<----- please tell me you see what I just did there). I'm calling to tell you that your information is like, really wrong. (Nervous laughter)
Riley: [sounding snooty] Oh, really? And just how is it wrong?
Juliette: Because my wedding is on September 26, not May 29. We're reserving the place for September 26. I called last week and spoke to a woman and she wrote it all down and took care of it.
Riley: Oh... interesting.
Juliette: WHAT DO YOU MEAN, "INTERESTING."
Riley: Well, what's your last name?
Juliette: [Juliette's last name has been removed because of privacy and safety from inter web stalkers]
Riley: Hmm... and what's your fiancé's last name?
Juliette: [Keith's last name has been removed because of privacy and safety from inter web stalkers]
Riley: Hmmm. Nope, you don't have September 26 reserved.
Juliette: WHO HAS SEPTEMBER 26 RESERVED?
Riley: Unfortunately I cannot give you that information because of privacy.
Juliette: Well, unfortunately for that person they're going to have to switch their date because September 26 is MY date and you have no idea how much hell I've been through finding my date and I AM getting married on September 26 and you WILL be fixing this because that is MY date and you WILL FIX IT DAMMIT.
Riley: Unfortunately you don't have a reservation on September 26.
Juliette: When did this other person reserve that date?
Riley: Yesterday.
Juliette: ARE YOU KIDDING ME? [trying not to cry and suddenly feeling very hot] Well, I don't know how you're going to do this but you WILL be fixing this and you WILL be calling me back by the end of the day and letting me know where you are with fixing this. If you don't you'll be ruining my wedding. I reserved that date. It's MINE. If you can't fix it I'll be expecting to speak with your supervisor about how you're ruining my wedding because THAT DATE IS MINE.


Then Riley said "ok" and I went into the grocery store to use the bathroom and try to find cheap boneless chicken breasts. Instead of finding chicken breasts I walked out with 10 yogurt cups, string cheese, Diet Coke, wine, and chocolate chips. And then I sobbed all the way home and I'm not kidding you when I say that I thought I was going to pass out on the road.

I didn't pass out. Instead I went home to drown my sorrows in Chardonnay and chocolate chips. Then I tweeted about my problem and texted people complaining about how hard my life was and I stared at the clock for like 4 hours. It was miserable.

THEN the heavens opened and angels sang and Riley called me back and said that the woman I had spoken to originally had gone on maternity leave the day after I spoke with her and he doesn't know what happened but he fixed everything and September 26 could be my wedding date again.

And then I cried, but this time from happiness. 

And that's the story of how I was a bridezilla for a moment and almost had to go all Bride Wars on somebody's butt and then in the end it always works out and isn't it a good thing I'm not dramatic?


And now, I have some questions. I've tried googling these things but I don't like the answers I've been getting, plus I trust all you readers way more than OTHER internet strangers. So please help me out with your opinions, either from your own bride experience or something you know from a friend or family member's wedding.

What one thing do you wish you could change about your wedding?

What was the best advice you've either heard or given regarding the wedding day?

What's one thing you always remember from weddings you attend?

Is it ok to wear my engagement ring while I'm washing dishes? What about while I'm showering?

What do you think is currently the most overdone wedding trend? Please be brutally honest, I can probably take it. And if not it's fine because I have wine.
K, BYE.

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  1. What one thing do you wish you could change about your wedding?
    The styling a little bit, but it was almost six years ago. Luckily my wedding was before Pinterest. Oh, and I would have MADE SURE to sit down and eat. I got one quiche and a slice of cake.

    What was the best advice you've either heard or given regarding the wedding day?
    Do not sweat the small stuff. The marriage is more important than the wedding and if anything doesn't go according to plan (crying flower girl, something took too long, someone gets drunk) it WILL be okay.

    What's one thing you always remember from weddings you attend?
    I have never actually been a guest at a wedding, but from the ones I've been in I love seeing the first dance between husband and wife, it's always super special.

    Is it ok to wear my engagement ring while I'm washing dishes? What about while I'm showering?
    I think it's okay to, I always took mine off (and take off my wedding ring) because I'm super clumsy and it's uncomfortable to me.

    What do you think is currently the most overdone wedding trend? Please be brutally honest, I can probably take it. And if not it's fine because I have wine.
    I don't know that it's a trend, but I've seen a lot of mismatched theme with venue. Like, classy decor but an outdoor/woodsy/farm venue or a rustic decor in a nice hotel. It's silly/stupid to me.

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  2. OMG Thank GOD Riley got everything taken care of. Otherwise that woman would have been packing her box of belongings and taking a permanent maternity leave, amiright? Holy smokes. I think I got anxiety reading that. Riley needs like a giant cookie delivered to him.

    I have no wedding advice because obviously no one can handle this jelly enough to be married to it, but I'm sure your other lovely readers can help you out with that.

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    1. HAHAH I just LOL'd at "obviously no one can handle this jelly enough to be married to it" #perfect #tweetingthat

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    2. You crack me UP Melanie....best comment ever.

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  3. 1) I would've taken more time to enjoy the engagement/wedding planning. We got engaged in August and set a date for March but then got so impatient by the end of October, we changed the date to January 3. AS IN TWO MONTHS AWAY. So it kind of smushed everything together and forced us to try and cram everything into those two months. I wish I would've allowed myself to not stress out so much and just enjoy the whole process.

    2) Best advice? SLOW DOWN, BREATHE, ENJOY. Just going back to my first answer: this is the only time you get to be engaged and your wedding day is one day. It may seem like it's far off but the time starts to fly so fast and by the time you realize it, it's wedding day. The wedding day goes by so fast and it's a big blur and by the end of the night you're like "wait what?" So sit back, take deep breaths, and really enjoy this time together. Marriage is seriously so awesome and it's so exciting but enjoy the time you have before then. Make your wedding planning enjoyable, not stressful.

    3) I always remember the groom's face when he sees the bride come down the isle. I KNOW I KNOW. I'm not original and that's so cliche but it's the truth. It's the reason I refused to do a first look with my husband before the ceremony. I wanted that moment so badly. I wanted my guests to see the way he looks at me because I can't explain it. Given, he started crying when my bridesmaids came out but still. His face when he saw me made that whole day of not seeing/talking to him 100% worth it and I wouldn't change that for anything. People say first looks make for the best pictures but the picture my photographer got of Wade's face when those doors opened is pretty spectacular. It's one from that day I will always cherish.

    4) I always take my ring off because I'm uber paranoid about anything and everything happening to it to the point where I've convinced myself if I wear it in the sink it will slide off from the soap and go down the drain and I will never see it again. However, my cousin wears hers 24/7 doing everything and shes's fine, so you're fine! I'm just a weirdo.

    5) Because I live in Texas, almost EVERY bride wears cowboy boots with her dress. THEY ALL DO IT and I'm like please don't. But then again maybe that's just like...really comfortable or something. I wore flip flops to the church door, put my heels on, walked down the isle & did the thing, walked back out of the church and put my flops back on immediately so like..maybe I'M doing it wrong. (I promise you couldn't see my flip flops! I'm not THAT tacky...also no one even knew so let's just not even tell anyone we had this conversation, k?)

    happy engagement! I'm so glad the venue worked out and got fixed. I'm positive everything will come together for you guys and it'll be so so so pretty and perfect. You're going to be a stunning bride!

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  4. OK THAT GAVE ME ANXIETY JUST NOW.

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  5. I'm currently angry at Riley, even if it was able to fix it in the end. Why would someone in customer service be mean to a bride after they've basically been told that their wedding is cancelled? Rude. No free champagne for him.

    What one thing do you wish you could change about your wedding?
    -- That it hasn't happened yet. No, I'm not engaged. That's not the point.

    What was the best advice you've either heard or given regarding the wedding day?
    -- It's your day, not your family's. Sure, compromise will have to happen because of constraints (weather, money, etc)... but you don't want to look back with regrets which will only happen if you let others make decisions for you that reflect their own wants and needs and not yours. Chances are, they'll forget the favor in a week anyway. You don't want to be like my BFF who somehow ended up with her bratty 12 year old niece as "flower girl" (way too old for that) in a white dress with a bouquet almost the same size as hers.

    Also, watch the garlic. The last wedding I was at had garlic in literally every food item (even the bread and salad) and there were no mints or gum to be found. It was a smelly night.

    What's one thing you always remember from weddings you attend?
    -- Because I can only pick one thing, I'll go with the seating arrangement. Family sits together, but if you've got diverse friends it's good to make sure people are near others with common interests. Everything will go more smoothly if people don't feel excluded.

    Is it ok to wear my engagement ring while I'm washing dishes? What about while I'm showering?
    -- Yes, but if it's even slightly big then either get a cheap band to go on the outside so if things slip off it's the cheap one and not the important one. Or invest in really good drain covers.

    What do you think is currently the most overdone wedding trend? Please be brutally honest, I can probably take it. And if not it's fine because I have wine.
    -- I really hate photo booths with "silly" props. They were fun at first but everyone looks the same in fake moustaches and big sunglasses. If you're going to do a photo booth with props, maybe just like confetti and some boas and tophats or something? Force people to be creative. Better yet... find someone with a slow motion booth. (here's a shameless plug for my friend's wedding slow mo booth... they're neat. https://www.youtube.com/watch?t=14&v=fXjVGL2oi0I )

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  6. OH my GOSH, I'm so glad you got that figured out!! That's ridiculous. Thankfully they fixed it. I've never had a wedding (homegirl can't even lock down a boyfriend ...) but personally I love weddings based on the couple. If the couple is fun, the wedding will be fun, no matter what. And one thing ... I was in a wedding once where the bride forced us to all have a same hairstyle. Now, I'm all for having the same outfit/shoes/accessories, etc. Or even saying "your hair has to be up" or "has to be down", but the exact same style? It sucked because I have lonnnnnnng thick hair and most of the other girls had different hair than mine so mine looked ridiculous in the style she chose and I hated it. That doesn't seem to be a "normal" thing that brides do, but just in case you were thinking of it, on behalf of your bridal party, please don't. ha!

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  7. Ahh that sounds awful! I'm so glad they were able to fix it! You definitely had a right to be a Bridezilla there though. That's a HUGE mess up on their end!!

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  8. OH my word, I would have freaked out too. I love how you went bridezilla on him, because it's your venue you did your due diligence and they messed up. Well done reading him the riot act. Forgive me but I laughed [ok snorted] when I saw what you went to the store for and what you left with, string cheese and chocolate chips for the win :)!

    What one thing do you wish you could change about your wedding? I would have labeled things better. I had these GORGEOUS flowers to wear in my hair at the reception because I didn't want to wear my veil [my aunt made it and didn't want it to fall off or tear] and I put it in a bag that I labeled. Well, I just put flowers and the box was beautiful so my planners put it on the gift table thinking it was a gift. When I asked for them no one knew what I was talking about because the bag didn't say 'flowers to wear at reception'. I wore them to the bar after the reception and now wear them to other people's weddings so it's fine now. Make sure you take time to PACK everything you think you'll need and label the bags with some kind of list so you know where things are on the day [don't get me started on the groomsmen's socks].

    What was the best advice you've either heard or given regarding the wedding day? Take the FIVE MINUTES after you say I DO and just find a room and SIT and BE with your Husband. NO PHONE! No Friends! No wedding planner! No nothing, just the TWO of you and soak that moment in together. My husband and I did that it was one of the most special moments. We kissed, asked each other about our morning and breakfast and I did the whole 'do you like my dress'? and it was amazing. TAKE THE TIME TO REVEAL IN THE MOMENT because it goes so fast.

    What's one thing you always remember from weddings you attend? THE CAKE [or cupcakes]! Bad, dry cake is the worst and will completely overshadow everything about the wedding for me. I went to an [ex]friend's wedding and her cake was so dry and the cupcakes tasted like they were cooked a week before, just blah. I was so bummed and was so glad she didn't ask me about them cause they sucked. I also pay attention if everyone is having fun in their own way, if they are then it's a good wedding to me.

    Is it ok to wear my engagement ring while I'm washing dishes? What about while I'm showering? I do, usually. Sometimes I take it off cooking messing food or when I'm on a HUGE washing spree, but I usually keep it on.

    What do you think is currently the most overdone wedding trend? Hmmmm, I think first looks are overrated and rob people of that special aisle moment, but that's my opinion. I always dreamed of the special moment with the music and didn't want to lose that for pictures. But, that's my opinion completely. I personally love the bouquet and garter toss beacuse it's fun and think it's sad when girls drop it because it's no longer 'cool'.

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    1. I agree with the first look trend being way overdone. I was not too involved in my wedding (seriously, my mom planned the whole thing--I'm so not into details, and I told Cody I would be perfectly fine with eloping if he wanted), but I was adamant that we would not see each other until I walked down the aisle.

      Also, I love that advice!! That is such a sweet idea. It does go so fast. I would add don't let anyone rush you. Yes, you should be considerate of your guests, but ultimately, this day is about you and your man so if you want great pictures or 10 minutes to yourself after the ceremony or whatever--DO IT! And don't feel bad about it. =)

      And P.S. I wear my ring doing dishes but never in the shower. I don't want it getting tangled in my hair or washing down the drain.

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  9. What one thing do you wish you could change about your wedding? I'd have ran away, and done the destination wedding thing :)

    What was the best advice you've either heard or given regarding the wedding day? Can't think of any of hand so i'm skipping this ;)

    What's one thing you always remember from weddings you attend? if they have good food, an open bar and a SHORT ceremony - the long painful ones are mehhh.

    Is it ok to wear my engagement ring while I'm washing dishes? What about while I'm showering? Yes and yes :) lol.

    What do you think is currently the most overdone wedding trend? Please be brutally honest, I can probably take it. And if not it's fine because I have wine. Hm. Thats a good question. I'll get back to you...

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  10. What one thing do you wish you could change about your wedding?
    I would have had a different photographer... I mean our pictures turned out OK but she was not so good at direction giving, she left early and missed our glowstick exit and I feel like we look really stiff and posed - not as Pinterest-esque as I had wanted. Photographers are expensive but years down the road the pictures are important.

    What was the best advice you've either heard or given regarding the wedding day?
    Make sure you have a Plan B due to weather. Or, like me (keep in mind I'm in Florida), plan EVERYTHING to be indoors and air conditioned as your Plan A.

    What's one thing you always remember from weddings you attend?
    The dancing :) the better the music (and if there's alcohol involved!) the more fun! Oh, and photobooths - those are fun.

    Is it ok to wear my engagement ring while I'm washing dishes? What about while I'm showering?
    YES. Better to have to clean it occasionally than to lose it because you took it off. The ONLY time I take mine off is if I'm making hamburgers/meatloaf (aka raw meat - ew).

    What do you think is currently the most overdone wedding trend? Please be brutally honest, I can probably take it. And if not it's fine because I have wine.
    Mason jars. But that could just be a southern wedding thing.

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  11. So annoying! In my limited experience (aka we've only booked a venue and date so far), people in the wedding industry are generally incompetent and end up over-booking and trying to promise too much. It's terrible!

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  12. What one thing do you wish you could change about your wedding? The weather. It stormed on our wedding day, but it cleared up enough to be able to have the ceremony and reception (no tent) outside. And it was a whole lot cooler because of that.

    What was the best advice you've either heard or given regarding the wedding day? It's not actually your day. Also, you will be in a zen place (at least I was), so just have someone else handle all the small decisions...like holding off the cocktail hour because of the rain.

    What's one thing you always remember from weddings you attend?

    Is it ok to wear my engagement ring while I'm washing dishes? What about while I'm showering? I don't wear mine for either of those. I'm deathly afraid that if I'm showering, it will somehow come off and head down the drain. I don't wear it for doing dishes because of the same issue/problem.

    What do you think is currently the most overdone wedding trend? Please be brutally honest, I can probably take it. And if not it's fine because I have wine. We had a rustic wedding, but it was in a really rustic venue. We used Pinterest, but tried to make it not look super "Pinterest"-y. I think that is the most overdone thing. Just be careful to not overuse everything on Pinterest. There are some great things on there, but use them sparingly.

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  13. Geez...what a crazy mess!! Glad to hear everything worked out for you!!

    What one thing do you wish you could change about your wedding? I'm not sure I would change anything about the wedding exactly. I would have gotten a photographer that was more in tune to our needs because he caused me a ton of stress on the wedding day...but the pictures that he did get were good so it wasn't a total bust. In the past few months (we have only been married for seven months), I have told my husband that if I could do it all over I would just enjoy every moment. I was so worried and nervous about every little thing. I just wish I enjoyed it all more because each part is a once in a lifetime thing.

    What was the best advice you've either heard or given regarding the wedding day? The best advice I can think of is to just enjoy and soak up every single moment of your big day. It truly does go by SO quickly. Take some time to just be with your husband even if it is just a few moments after the ceremony. Don't worry about what others think and just make it a day that you and your husband love!

    What's one thing you always remember from weddings you attend? To be honest, I don't remember much after about a week. I will remember something if it is THE BEST or THE WORST ever. Like food, cake, vows, etc. I think many guests don't remember all the little details and pieces that the bride/groom worked so hard to create. Even more reason to make things exactly as you want them. You will be the one that remembers all the specifics and details in the years to come.

    Is it ok to wear my engagement ring while I'm washing dishes? What about while I'm showering? I usually take mine off when I get home. I don't think there is anything wrong with wearing them in the shower or to do dishes, but I just prefer to have all jewelry off when I get home.

    What do you think is currently the most overdone wedding trend? Hmmm...this one is difficult. I can't really think of one. Maybe signature cocktails at the reception. Not sure it's a totally bad idea, but if the idea is for guests to enjoy their choice of beverage then it seems like a bit of a waste of energy and effort to have one.

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  14. Well that sounds like a crazy day. I would have likely died. Since I haven't had my own wedding yet, I am going to give you unsolicited advice from the wedding planner side of me :)

    -What one thing do you wish you could change about your wedding?
    The hairstyles most brides choose. So make sure you pick a good hairstylist and hair style. You're going to want the photos from the entire night to look great, not just while you are getting ready and at the ceremony.

    What was the best advice you've either heard or given regarding the wedding day?
    Dont invite the people you don't want there. Some people will push it on you to include such and such with a guest. but what if they bring someone you don't like. Do you want them in your pictures for all of forever?

    What's one thing you always remember from weddings you attend?
    The music and the drinks. Hire a good DJ, don't use an iPod...and have an open bar for at least some of the night.

    Is it ok to wear my engagement ring while I'm washing dishes? What about while I'm showering?
    Yes. For the price of that ring it will withstand the time. Just make sure you have insurance because stones may fall out (this is normal) and get it cleaned every 3 months.

    What do you think is currently the most overdone wedding trend? Please be brutally honest, I can probably take it. And if not it's fine because I have wine.
    Unity ceremonies. The sand, the wine box, the love knot. All of it.

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  15. I would have bought waaaaaay more than one bottle of wine!!!! SO glad Riley got that taken care of!!

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  16. What one thing do you wish you could change about your wedding?
    First looks. We didn't do one. And Jason was mortified nervous and it would have made 684984651 times difference for him to have seen me and just had a moment together alone. Because you don't have one until you're in the honeymoon suite and by then you're FREAKING EXHAUSTED.

    What was the best advice you've either heard or given regarding the wedding day?
    Ummmmmm. Well, it's just the beginning. Seriously. I thought that I'd feel way more warm and fuzzy and nostalgic about our wedding day. But I don't. I feel that way about my husband. Who I'd love all the same whether we'd married in a courthouse or a big wedding to do. :) (Sounds so cliche but it's #truth.)

    What's one thing you always remember from weddings you attend?
    The dancing? I don't know, there's always something, but it's not always the same thing. I guess what I've realized as a guest is it's obvious when the bride and groom honored their personalities and when they didn't. So doing you is the most important (or impressionable).

    Is it ok to wear my engagement ring while I'm washing dishes? What about while I'm showering?
    I always wear mine. Always. Showering, doing dishes, applying lotion and make up. Always. I guess that could mean it's more dirty than other people's, but I just don't ever really want to take it off so I don't.

    What do you think is currently the most overdone wedding trend?
    Let's see: bridal party pictures where they're jumping, unity biz like sand in jars, also balloons. I don't believe balloons belong at weddings in ANY way, shape, or form.

    And the venue, let's kill them.

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  17. Poor Riley was almost a dead man. I'm so so so so so happy it all worked out! (And yes you're fine wearing your ring while you do the dishes and shower.)

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  18. Best advice I can give? Drink more wine!!!

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  19. I'm so glad it worked out! I would have been SO ANGRY if that happened to me.

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  20. Geez...I must have been lucky because I had zero problems planning my wedding other than just having trouble making some decisions in the beginning.

    One thing I wish we would have done different is somehow getting pictures done more quickly after the ceremony even though they didn't take that long, but by the time we got them done, ate, cut the cake etc, most people were ready to leave. We didn't get to talk to many of the guests, and I regret that because we had a ton of people from out of town I'd have liked to visit with.

    The best advice I can remember telling myself is that the little things don't matter in the end. Even if there's small hiccups, all that matters is that you get to say I do.

    I always remember the cake! This was super important to me at my wedding, and I'm pretty sure we had the best tasting cake ever.

    I don't wear my engagement ring unless I'm going out somewhere. It's tall and I bang it on everything I touch. Plus I can't stand washing my hands with it on because water stays underneath it. Yuck.

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  21. One thing I'd change - I wish I would have gotten different chairs. I know that seems silly and I'm sure I'm the only one that even thought about the stupid chairs but I wasn't happy with them.

    Best advice - this had more to do with the marriage but it was still the best advice we received. The man that married us (Derek's uncle) told us to pray about everything, always put God first, then your spouse, then your children. He said to always put your spouses happiness before your own, because nine times out of ten, a disagreement comes from putting yourself before your partner's.

    Thing I remember most about weddings - music/dancing and the FOOD.

    Wedding ring/band - I take mine off at night (because my fingers swell) and wear them all day. I don't wear them at the gym to prevent scratching them on the weights but other than that I do everything in them.

    Trends - a lot of people say the "rustic" theme is overdone but I love it. I will say that trends I don't like (but aren't necessarily overdone) are games at the reception (shoe game, newlywed questions, money dance, etc).

    Also - SO GLAD YOU GOT ALL THAT MESS WORKED OUT OR I WOULD HAVE HAD TO COME UP THEORY ANDROID GIVE HIM A PIECE OF MY MIND.

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  22. What one thing do you wish you could change about your wedding?
    Very long and drama filled story short, I didn't want my sister in my wedding and I was forced to have her in it. Like, she showed up in the bridesmaids dress that all my girls purchased an hour before the ceremony. It was a shitshow and I cried for hours leading up to walking down the aisle. I wish I either sucked it up and didn't give 2 shits about it, or put my foot down and made sure nothing ruined my day. I have really terrible memories surrounding our wedding -- do what you can to remember what's important that day :)

    What was the best advice you've either heard or given regarding the wedding day?
    Don't sweat the small stuff, and it's ALL small stuff. Example: I purchased, sold, and re-purchased centerpieces THREE different times!! Looking back I still hate the centerpieces that we had - they cost me a lot of time and money, and I wish I just did something simple like tea lights on the table.

    What's one thing you always remember from weddings you attend?
    If it had an open bar or not.

    Is it ok to wear my engagement ring while I'm washing dishes? What about while I'm showering?
    I've made a habit of taking mine off while washing the dishes, showering or cooking. I'm a ditz and it would totally fall off and go down the drain.

    What do you think is currently the most overdone wedding trend? Please be brutally honest, I can probably take it. And if not it's fine because I have wine.
    I was married back in 2012 so I really have no idea what the current trends are. Sorry love.

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  23. OH WAIT - overdone wedding trend? The bridal party taking photos with their panties hanging out. Don't do that. kbye. xo

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  24. im so happy it got sorted out.

    also, i have literally taken my engagement ring off twice only since i got engaged (on christmas) and that was to let other people try it on. i lose EVERYTHING. EV-ERY-THING and I just cant risk it. Washing dishes. In the shower. Swimming in pools. It's fine. It fits, it's not gonna slip off, and i agree with another commenter that it's better to get it cleaned than to lose it!!

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    1. I just really feel the need to reiterate that for the people saying it would fall off - your ring is too big then!

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  25. Can I just say that this post was hilarious?? I am so glad that everything worked out with saving your wedding. I would have lost my SHIZ if that had happened to me! Loving your blog and congrats on your big day :)

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  26. So glad that everything worked out... you're totally allowed to be a bridezilla for this!

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  27. Holy crap!! That is the scariest story ever, but I am so glad your wedding day is all set. I cannot believe how nonchalant Riley was, and almost kind of rude! Regardless, so glad you get September 26! (We got married September 20, so I am partial to September :) )

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  28. Personally, I hate the bouquet toss. I'm sure it's meant to be fun, and maybe it is for some people. But I actually find it more embarrassing than anything else. And it always takes so long too.

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  29. I think that I have read some of your tweets regarding wedding planning, and reading this post has me feeling like we are in the same boat. Not the same boat of a venue, but our date is the same and I am all sorts of freaking out. Last thing I knew it was 2015 and I was ahead of the game and now we are 4 months out and I'm like...my list is NEVER ENDING! Email me, tweet me, etc to vent...I hope the rest gets easier for you!

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