Wednesday, August 27, 2014

I'm moving

Recently I mentioned that I have to figure out where to move when the lease at my apartment ends. Well, it's decided. In two-ish weeks I'm moving... back in with my parents.
To be honest, I'm really dreading this. Don't get me wrong, I love my parents and I am really thankful that they're willing to let me live with them while I figure out my next move (pun sort of intended but only if it made you laugh), but I feel like in the last year, and especially the last three months, I've gotten really good at living on my own. It's just one of my many special talents. Coming home to an empty apartment and doing whatever I want (which usually involves a hike, some Netflix, and then general laziness) is pretty great and I'm sad to be giving that up.
Financially though, this is definitely the best decision. Anything that involves free rent can't be a bad thing, right? (Joke, don't take me seriously.) Living with my parents will allow me to savesavesave which will, in turn, make whatever comes next much easier. I'm just kind of sad. Last night I was going through my closet trying to get rid of old clothes (six bags of clothes are ready to be donated or given to my sister or something) and I ended up just wandering aimlessly around my apartment thinking of all the things I'm going to miss. I reminisced about the memories in the apartment over the last year... some made me really sad but most made me smile, and I just let myself feel sad to be saying goodbye to this stage of life.

I just wrote three whole paragraphs about all the little details I'm going to miss, but if I were you I'd probably just skim those paragraphs, so I deleted them. You're welcome.

Probably what I'm going to miss the most is my independence. I won't be able to leave dirty dishes on the coffee table or the counter and just think, I'll get to that later, like I do now. I'll have to actually be clothed when I'm walking around the house. I won't be able to have a bottle glass of wine or a ninja mimosa whenever I feel like it. I won't live .75 miles away from my favorite mountain to hike. I won't live 7 minutes away from Target. But I also won't be woken up at 530 every single morning by that stupid bird and his incessant squawking. Silver lining, right?

Sometimes you have to take a step backward to take some steps forward, or something like that. And even though I know I'm being dramatic about this and it's probably not a big deal and it's for the best and tons of people live with their parents, I'm sad. Last year when I moved out of their house I felt like I was taking this huge step forward and I was finally on my own, but I feel like I'm just backpedaling and I think a little bit of me is embarrassed. Part of me feels like a failure, which is stupid. I know so many people who live with their parents and I've never once thought "Oh, that person failed and that's so lame that she lives with her parents." Not once have I thought that. I guess we just judge ourselves harder than we judge other people.

This weekend Keith and I are going camping in Yosemite (I should have written a post about how I'm freaking out about camping for the very first time and what the heck am I supposed to pack???) and then I only have one more weekend in my little apartment before I officially don't live on my own anymore. It's probably safe to say that the ninja mimosas will be flowing heavily that weekend.

Ugh I'm really sorry this was so depressing. I thought writing was supposed to make you feel better but for some reason this just made it feel more real and I'm still sad so it's probably a good time to take a look at some of my favorite GIFs.



30 comments:

  1. I remember my first apartment that I lived in on my own. I put in my lease termination notice 60 days prior to moving out and then 30 days later it hit me what was happening. I literally cried, called the Realtor and they let me stay. So I totally get why you're so emotional over it! Part of me is so happy I stayed because that apartment really housed some of the most fun times in my life, but part of me wishes I followed through on moving back in with my parents because....free rent and savings. Duh. I think in the long term, you're making the right decision :) Good luck!!!

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  2. Moving in general sucks.. packing in itself deserves 3-10 ninja mimosa's and going through one's closet deserves like 25. These are doctor recommended dosages (just kidding I'm not a doctor) so it's ok.

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  3. I'm sorry you're sad about the move. I moved out of my parents' house about 9 months ago and sometimes I wish I could move back! Free rent is AWESOME. I know living alone has a lot of perks, but so does having extra money and savings!

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  4. I moved back home for a few months right after I graduated from college. It was in a weird transitional phase in life where I didn't know exactly what the next step was, so it made sense. To be honest, it really wasn't that bad. I was sad to give up my personal space too, but once I finally got settled back home I kind of forgot about it. At least you know this decision is just putting you one step closer to a more ideal situation in the future!

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  5. I moved back in with my parents for about 6 months between my apartment and buying my house. It was irritating at first, but looking back I made some GREAT memories while getting to live with them as an adult.

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  6. I feel like if you get along well with your parents then it will really be worth it! Saving money is so hard with all the bills. I bet you'll love it!

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  7. Moving definitely stinks... but I know a TON of people who have moved back in with their parents after finally having moved out. It may be annoying in the beginning, but I am sure you will make the most of it! And the silver lining definitely is that you will be able to save money which will make moving out on your own again that much easier! I am sure things will all work out and perhaps you can even figure out a way to have giant mimosas or bottles of wine while living at home! I know I could get my mom on the bottle of wine or mimosa train if I really tried... or who am I kidding... I don't think I'd have to try that hard ;-)

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  8. I lived with my parents after college. There are some awesome perks like my mom cooked me dinner every night, I never had to buy groceries unless I wanted snacks for work, and I didn't have to clean the entire house on my own... but I know how you feel. After having independence, it's incredibly hard to not have it. Just save your money while you can and then figure out what's next :)

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  9. I currently live with my parents, or as I refer to them, my housemates. Sometimes it sucks but most of the time it's really great. I totally understand what you mean about feeling like a failure because sometimes I feel like that myself, but then I realize I'm being dumb. I just remind myself it's not a forever thing and being able to save so much is fabulous. Plus my long term plans involve moving away so I just try to enjoy my time with them while it doesn't involve a plane trip/long car ride to visit.

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  10. There's nothing wrong with living with your parents! I miss it - the free rent, the meals cooked for you, my mom even did most of my laundry (winning!). I totally understand not wanting to give up your independence, but since you have already made the choice, might as well enjoy it while you are there and save up some $$$$!

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  11. I've moved back in with my parents before. And then, after moving out AGAIN, I moved in with a friend, which was not terribly different than living with parents because it was for the same reason (no money), and she owned the house and had all the rules. But now I'm finally independent and all those times really don't matter that much!

    I was in Yosemite earlier this year! We stayed in Curry Village (tent village), and the bathrooms were a little gross, and there was lots of hiking and sweating and generally being unattractive. So... athletic wear and comfy pjs. Nothing else will be needed. And be careful with your food! Because bears. (Also if you're camping on your own and not in an established campground, check out the Yosemite website. Some of it is important, like not leaving food in your car, and staying away from rodents because of the hantavirus thing).

    Sorry for the novel.

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  12. I love the Seinfeld references. ;) Just think.. living with your parents might make you work harder, to make more money, faster. Maybe? I don't know. Sometimes I suck at finding the silver lining. But you're absolutely right.. Sometimes you have to take a step backward in order to take more steps forward. I've never heard anyone put it like that, so thank you. I will be writing that one down.

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  13. Ohhhh you are a brave woman for moving back in with your parents! Although, now I do love visiting my mom because she makes me food and now I don't take that for granted :-) I'm so jealous you're going to be in Yosemite! We went there a few years ago and I absolutely loved it. Although, we didn't camp, because I'm a weenie and don't do outdoorsy things like that if I can avoid it.

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  14. Oh man I totally feel you on this! I'm currently living with my in-laws after years of just my husband and I. Definitely can relate to when you said it feels like taking a step back, but for now we know we have to swallow our pride and accept their help so it can put us in a better position for the future. Hopefully your parents respect your space and realize that you're coming back into the house as an adult. I remember after my third year in university I moved home for the summer and suddenly at 21 my parents tried to give me rules about my dating life, curfew, etc. It was like a slap in the face, let me tell you, and they've since apologized for whatever they tried to do during that time. I hope you have fun camping this weekend and soaking up all the freedom time! PS: If they're truly ninja mimosas they'll find a way into your bedroom ;) just sayin'

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  15. I'm sure it's a very bittersweet time for you, but as Mandy Hale said (and I really believe to be true), " You will get there when you are meant to get there and not one moment sooner...so relax, breathe, and be patient" Where ever "there" is, this is a step in the right direction even if you feel like it's not. Good luck and enjoy the time you do have left in your apartment!!

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  16. Let's just discuss that you are going camping in Yosemite, I am uber jealous. You will like it, at least I hope you will. As for moving back home, I literally just moved out of my parents house for the first time. There is nothing wrong with it, it is a social norm and think of the dollars you'll be racking up.

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  17. I hope you and Keith are hiking Half Dome in Yosemite. It's so incredible. If you ever feel like you need to gain some perspective or put yourself in check, doing it at the top of this epic, ridiculous mountain is definitely the way to do it.

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  18. Hey... remember me? Remember last September when I moved back home and I'm POSITIVE I shared all of these same concerns with you and you told me that I did not fail, I'm saying that back to you. Don't EVER think you've failed, because you most certainly have not. Also SCARVES!!!! <------ That's my way of saying yay for sending them to me AND continue to clean out your stuff... preferably in the jewelry section of your room. KTHANKSBYEEEEEE

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  19. That was heavy and I have a lot of mixed emotions but then Honey Boo Boo tried to juggle and it was all better.

    CAMPING! WHOA. I haven't done that in ages. Don't even bother packing anything besides booze and one change of clothes. No matter how many times you shower you'll still feel gross cause OUTSIDE. But the booze will distract you so there's a method to the madness.

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  20. I'm glad you're able to see the best in the situation, even if it isn't exactly what you want. You're so right that it's going to be the best financial move, and you're even more right that there's no reason to be embarrassed about living with your parents. Parents are there to support you and love you in any way, even if it means you can't leave your dishes around anymore. Camping is a lot of fun, you'll love it! Just pack bug spray and snacks and alcohol and anything that might make you feel less gross.

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  21. I moved back in with my parents after college until I got married at 26. It sucked for all those reason...no pantless time, no sexy time with Nicj, being clean. I didn't worry about the drinking though. Mom opened the wine and we shared a bottle (or two) every night :)
    Just remember it's not permanent. Stepping stone. And you'll save an ass ton of money. (However much an "ass ton" is)
    Also, I expect a FaceTime call during that last weekend of ninja mimosaness.

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  22. So, I had to move back in with my parents when I was 25, and it took me a little over a year to move back out (into Tim's house... I never was an independent woman). And I couldn't drink in my parents' house. It was kind of a sad feeling, being a grown up living with mom and dad, but it was also REALLY nice to be able to pay my bills (and afford new clothes) while I lived there.

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  23. Sometimes you have to sacrifice a little to get to where you want. This is probably a very wise decision for you that will pay off in the end!

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  24. Nothing bad with moving in with the parents. I lived with mine until I got married a few months ago! I hope we can get that blate done one day after you move!!!

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  25. I have moved back home every summer for the past 5 years...does it suck sometimes??? Yes. Is it awesome not paying rent?? You bet! Is it nice getting to watch movies with your parents on a regular basis? Yes. Does it take some adjusting?? Of course!! But it is always worth it. :)

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  26. Aww I’m sorry I’m late to this post party, but you are ABSOLUTELY NOT backpedaling. You are making a wise financial decision, and only a temporary one at that. You will not live with your parents forever. This is just for a little while and then you and Keith are going to live happily ever after the end bye.

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  27. I currently live with my mom. Most of the time we get along and it works out great. But, their are times when I wish I did live alone. I am going to be moving this month as well and it can be daunting. But, you will get it all done and things will work out with living with your parents. Like you said their is a silver lining.

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  28. i just want to point out that you could have TOTALLY moved in with me and shitler.
    we don't like tons of mountains but we have the packers and doesn't your man friend enjoy them?!!?

    COME LIVE WITH ME I MISS LIVING WITH A GIRL BOYS SMELL.

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  29. Unlike most moves, yours would be like a homecoming. But I presume that this isn't for good, and you're probably checking the listings for more permanent place to stay right now. Just be organized with your stuff as you move, and make sure that you have all the essentials with you when you move out, so that the transition won't be much of a hassle. Take care!

    June Griffith @ Arnold & Self

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  30. Awww! It seems that you've been living independently for a while, but it's nice that you'll be moving back in with your parents. It may be hard at first, since you were used to do things on your own already, but I think it's for the best. In any way, I hope you're settling in real well with them. Thanks for sharing that, Juliette! All the best to you!

    Doyle Hunt @ Real East Van

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